Here's what I discovered - follow along and join the debate over secondhand books in the comments!
Eric: The Dream Home Library
I normally buy books. Secondhand paperbacks from secondhand stores or on online. But If I have read it before and loved it then I will get a hardback and display it proudly. I often center entire rooms around my collection. I typically only buy new if it is a new book and I do not read too many of those. Okay, I lied about not buying new books. I can’t not spend $100 dollars if I go to a bookstore and if I see one I go in, especially while traveling. But new books aren't my go-to. I read physical, e-book and audiobooks, I often have the same book in all three formats especially if they are longer (see 14 book fantasy series that has taken over my life since February). I still must have a physical copy, the smell, the feel, books line my walls. After I read a book it gets organized into my “read” bookcase which if it is a paperback (without sentimental value) I have a little sign for friends that says “take what you want”, friends are always asking me for recs. Otherwise I keep it indefinitely. I do keep books I will probably never read, as I sad reminder that this life (as far as modern science allows) is not long enough for my ever-growing list.
I recently moved and haven't finished unpacking, but here's one section of my library!
Savannah: The Sensible Shopper
I rarely buy books myself unless I already know and love them, so you can find me taking advantage of all three of my library cards. I especially love the Nashville library system because if I want a book at another branch, they’ll send it right over to whichever location is nearest to me! When I do decide to buy, it depends on how new it is. I bought City of Girls at Parnassus because I like to #shoplocal, but if the book has been out a while I’ll usually try McKay’s secondhand bookstore or (gasp) Amazon. I read physical books at least 90% of the time. I don’t care for reading on my little phone screen and I have to love the narrator to read audio. Holding a book and cozying up with a blanket is the best! After I read a book that I’ve purchased, I will keep it if I love it. I enjoy a good reread now and then, and some things with sentimental value (like my 75-year-old copy of Little Women that I read every December) are definitely worth keeping. Because I don’t purchase books very often, typically what I keep is what I like. I don’t mind lending if I know I’ll get it back eventually! If it’s not a winner, I’ll donate it to the free shelves at work or to a Goodwill. I know I have a few things laying around that I’ve never gotten to, but most of what I keep are stories that have really moved me or made me think (whether that be Educated or Gone Girl).Taylor: The Competitive Collector
I primarily read physical books (always the hardcover if I can help it) and listen to audio (both bought and library loans). I’ll also sometimes buy an audiobook I originally got from the library if I absolutely loved the narration and think I’ll listen to it again (see my raving about the Lady Sherlock). Clearly, I am 100% a book buyer. I know a lot of people only buy a book after they’ve read and liked it, but that just doesn’t work for me (aside from audio). Once I’ve read a book, that particular book is mine. A new copy feels too inanimate. My read book is connected to that experience. Obviously, I don’t generally borrow books from friends. Not just because I’m a literary Gollum, but we get so invested in books we love, and to me borrowing feels like a lot more pressure to like a book than just taking a rec. I have one friend who is willing to lend and from whom I’m willing to accept books, and that’s solely because our reading tastes are basically identical. I also keep all my books. And I mean all. I don’t know the last time I got rid of a book. I have 722 books in my apartment (yes, I counted specifically for this post), all organized by genre, and probably at least half a dozen boxes in storage. Marie Kondo would be horrified, but hey! My excess of literature brings me joy!My collection:
I’m not very picky about where I buy my books, but I am picky about their condition. I can spend hours in our local secondhand bookstore just finding the copies of books I want in the best condition. I never buy anything less than “used – very good” on Amazon. Writing and highlighting are a nonstarter. I request replacements regularly when my new books arrive with damage. It can be a headache for me and for customer service at times, but the books in my life have value as knowledge and as objects. I’m also a strong proponent of the value of having an abundance of unread books. I’m guessing at least 60% of the books on my shelf are unread. And I’m in no danger of that changing, because I can and will always buy books faster than I can read them. Unread books are a representation of potential. They’re knowledge yet to be learned and stories yet to be experienced. They’re where you go next.Sydney: The Indie Enthusiast
I normally buy books, typically new, because I’m a crazy person that spends way too much on books. I pick up a few secondhand books at McKay’s, but generally I stick to new books at indie bookstores. Plus, I listen to a ton of audiobooks, which helps me maintain my shelf space. I am physical books and audiobooks all the way. It’s been 5+ years since I’ve read an ebook. I have definitely leaned into the audiobook format. This year it’s been a 1:10 ratio print to audio, so I’ve been collecting fewer print books (sort of, because I am a hopeless book buyer and have definitely added to my print TBR pile). I do pretty much keep every book indefinitely - unless it's a textbook or something I just really didn't like, they all live indefinitely in my shelves. My apartment is full of books, and I love it. I enjoy looking at the spines and remembering where I read it and what I was thinking and what phase of my life I was in, even if the odds that I’ll read it again are low. Generally I’m not a big lender, though my mom sometimes comes in and lifts a book or two! I actually used to donate to the library a lot in middle school/high school to free up shelf space, but now I just buy new shelves! Do I keep books I intended to read ages ago but may never get to? Oh most certainly! I’ve been on the losing end of a TBR pile since middle school. I doubt that will ever change since every time I go to an indie bookstore I typically buy at least one book even if I’m reading 3 different books at the time. I’m all about that beautifully curated local bookstore, and I love to go to different indies around the country and buy their recommendations.Kayleigh: The No-Nonsense Aficionado
I almost always get books the first time from library books. Then I buy books after I’ve read them and know I would want to reread them unless it’s an author that I love enough that they are now on my instant-buy list. I read print, ebooks, and listen to audiobooks. I don’t read a lot of nonfiction books but I listen to them more than I’ve ever read them. But I also listen to a variety of fiction as well. Ebooks are usually limited to lighter content reads like romance or fantasy. I’ll read anything and everything in print form. Using the other 2 formats doesn’t effect the amount of print books I own.
A small corner of my home library
If I cared enough to buy a book (unless I didn’t like the book), I will keep it. I keep 5 books to loan out to friends and family that are my top favorites, which are:
- The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society
- The Beekeeper’s Apprentice
- The Kiss Quotient
- The Scarlet Pimpernel
- A Discovery of Witches
Lydia: The It's Complicated
My approach to book acquisition has changed over the years. It's gone from only-buy-new-books-always from a physical bookstore to a combination. Now I buy new online, buy secondhand books in stores, and (shockingly) get ebooks from the library. In general though, I do prefer print books. If I'm waiting for a book in a series to come out, I'll usually splurge on a new copy. As I discover how many other ways to get books there are out there for low or no cost, it's easier to save those purchases for books I know I'll want to own indefinitely. I only just discovered McKay's secondhand book warehouse myself, and I was instantly awe-struck by the new possibilities. Seriously, it impressed me. I walked out with 6 secondhand books (Water for Elephants for 75 cents!!) and suddenly I think there might be hope for building up my bookshelf. Plus, you can't beat the feeling of giving something a new life again. I read Marie Kondo's The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up a few years ago. While I scoffed at some of her principles (emptying your purse every night and finding everything again in the morning to put back in it is a recipe for disaster), I took her "if it doesn't spark joy, get rid of it" talk to heart. Therefore, when I finished it, I donated it to Goodwill. And I donated a few other books I either didn't like or had no intention of ever reading. Generally, if I really like the book, I will keep it indefinitely for re-reading. I also like to have some to loan out to friends and family (only those I can trust to actually read it and return it). If I didn't like the book, or it was really trendy and is now outdated, I typically donate it with my next Goodwill run. It's usually clear to me when I want to keep a book, so I don't feel conflicted about giving secondhand books away. It just frees up space on my shelf for more books I love. I keep a couple of books that I've had for years and never read. These are ones that I really have confidence that I will tackle. You know, when I get in the right mood. So, maybe one of these days I'll feel that way about The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo that I bought many years ago and never even cracked the cover....or did I donate that book too? BRB while I go check my bookshelf.Goldie: The Shameless Hoarder
I am a shameless book hoarder. It’s true. I buy them in hardcover, paperback, and audio – at Indies, yard sales, B&N, secondhand book stores (I ❤ McKay’s), and airport stalls. I borrow from friends and always have at least 4 or 5 from the library in my possession. Last week I drove 6 hours round trip to an IKEA just to buy another Billy bookcase. And by Monday it was already full. It’s a problem.
Shelf #1...
I mainly read print books because there’s some inexplicable joy from holding, dog-earing, and smelling those magic pages. But, I do adore the convenience and variety of being able to read and travel with several e-books or digital audiobooks. Gone are the days where packing for family vacations meant my Beauty & the Beast carry-on was 90% heavy books (sorry Dad!). A gal needs choices, you know? Plus, digital reading means if I’m stuck in the checkout line at Target or waiting for a takeout order after work, I always have a story within reach.
Shelf #2...
After I finish reading a book I own, I absolutely keep it. No question. Joey doesn’t share food! And Goldie doesn’t share books! I cherish the books I really loved so I can re-read them again and again (I re-read Erin Morgenstern’s The Night Circus every November and The Great Gatsby at least once a year). If I own a book that I didn’t so much love, someone I know someday might, and I keep it for that opportunity. It’s fun to wait for the moment to present itself when I can give a "just because" gift. That prevents feeling even the slightest pang of regret for the departed book.
Shelf #3...
Full disclosure, I also have stacks and stacks of books I’d categorize as ‘someday’ reads. These are the books I KNOW I'll love because the genre is my sweet spot and the description is enticing. Or, the cover is gorgeous but keep downgrading in my ever-changing queue of ‘Want to Reads’. Whoever said “I was born with a reading list I will never finish” couldn’t have been more accurate. Sometimes that fact is daunting, tbh. But, there’s delight in knowing I can “shop” my own burgeoning shelves to find something new. Yet there's still the surprise of discovering a gem nestled in the stalls of a bookshop. I think that’s part of the fun of being a book nerd (OK, hoarder). No matter how many books you know, love, own, and read…there’s always room for one more. Am I right?
...and Shelf #4
So there you have it! We have lots of opinions - but we want to know yours!